Trust Who?

Okay by now you may have noticed the ups and downs with the blogs that are being posted. What can I tell you that’s life. A life that takes many trials and tribulations but, the hope to continue pushing despite what happens. In the healing process it takes a lot of work to just clear your mind and breath. To heal there is one thing required, the power of trust. Yes, the power of trust which can become difficult if you’re not careful. Trust requires a different type of healing as it may appear not so easy. When speaking of trust, it usually connects back to underlined life situation that was never resolved. A good example of this can be relationships and how they began, or even sometimes how they ended.  Why this may be so profound is because, the effort it takes to trust another human being let alone trying to place trust in something you haven’t seen before. I said it, placing trust in something you haven’t seen before.

Let’s talk about placing trust in something that can’t be seen, how will most people react. They say for a relationship to work you must have trust. I ask the question how can someone trust in a human relationship when there is no trust in God. Let that resonate for just a moment, until you catch on to what has been said. If God provided us with authority over the entire earth, who do you think he is using to help humanity to learn how to trust. If you say no one, your wrong. God uses his people to assist him with teaching others how to trust. Here is the question, if someone is unable to trust God, how can they trust another human being, or even themselves? It could be through ordinary conversations, taking time getting to know each other if romantic, family and friends. Yet, what if they are unable to trust due to bad experiences what then. How do you deal with the healing of trusting another human being. Humm…did you figure out the answer yet?

Well, it’s simple through faith, trial and error in life, and disappointments as the list can go on. So, if as people we can lean on the three, I just mentioned. Why can’t you trust in God, the one who gives breath, and allow you to walk in his world. The one who is always there despite being unable to see him. The one who wipes your tears and allow you to know it will be okay. Why do we not trust him verses another human being that can hurt us. That’s at least until you get to an individual who can communicate what trust look like. It’s a little more questions in this blog I will admit but, is that too much to answer. How much do you actually trust yourself to make the right decision most of the time in your life? Do you just take a hunch, or do you step out on faith to take a chance? One word, “Faith” is connected to trust. An example, trusting yourself to know that you can make it through the situation. Learning to trust in the fact that you made the right decision when choosing where to live or eat.

Trust begins to have a nice ring, the more you think about the word. When you don’t trust please be aware it will make it hard to fully trust anything else. Have you heard of the sane “hurt people hurt people”, well, why do you think most people do? Is it because, of insecurity…that can be a reason, because in order to be secure, you have to be secure with yourself. All I’m saying is take time to fully trust yourself before trying to trust another human being that can lead to disappointments. This eventually leads to heartache and pain. In return, can be carried to another individual if you don’t heal properly from what occurred. Trust can take work as it can cause another hidden form of grief that you haven’t realized was there. This is why it’s important to take time for yourself. The Lord did on numerous occasions. There is a problem though, you hear no one speaking about the Lord taking time for himself. Could it be because, too many want the healing first without doing the work? When people don’t put in the work, it’s a chance you can hurt another by not taking time for yourself.

The Thought to Heal

Have you ever had the feeling never to lose just to experience the emotions that takes place after. Well, that’s how grief can feel as you go through life. Sometimes it feels as an explosive went off in your chest to the point all you feel is pain. Let’s not be too hard on ourselves as some grief is needed to shift our lives. I’m not just speaking about the loss of someone but “LOST” such a material belonging. It’s just as difficult to figure out how to regulate your emotions from that type of lost as well. Is everything we do in life grief? To answer that question, yes because it can be defined as a tragedy in a human being life. A part of yourself that is trying to climb the mountain but unfortunately can’t, due to the thoughts in your head.  Those thoughts continue to recycle itself over and over almost like the spin cycle on a washing machine. Then the questions come especially the “why”. Have you noticed when anything terrible happen in your life it’s always a “Why”. There it goes again that big “why” well let’s answer that very question to go deeper.

Take at least five to ten minutes to yourself to think about something that occurred in the last sixty days. What emotions come to mind as you think about what occurred? The thought to never fully understand what happened in the situation can be the biggest grief.  This is do much to the busy schedules many of us have, that we never just stop to process the emotions. Emotions that continue to flood the life out of you sometimes, wondering are you made to just “go, go, go”.  We as humans were not created in that manner, or way. We were created to simply carry out a mission, so others around us can reap the benefits of what we experience. For example, what is the one thing most people wished they did after losing something in life no matter a loved one, house, job, even yourself? Nine times out of ten most will agree on taking a break for themselves to heal properly or understand yep, I’m saying it again “WHY”. Now, you all are catching on… simple right. No, it’s not simple because, to process grief appropriately you must make room for life situations but, for your emotions as well.

Tell those emotions just to come right on in and have a seat. Come on you can do it, sit right here until how every long it takes for you to process, feel and eventually heal. The emotions toward healing after grief is difficult for anyone. What if there was a way to understand why you process grief the way you do? Will you be a willing vessel to try it out, or would you rather just continue to suffer? Let me tell you, if you picked suffering, I will pray for you. So, what I’m going to do is allow you about ten seconds to make the decision. Healing truly or suffer? Healing stood and plead for you to pick that option. The option just to become who you once were again. It’s not easy as it takes lots of time and effort. There is a hiccup though, you must be willing to begin. I tried to break it gently as much as I could.  Look on the bright side though, your able to start at your own pace as no one person grieves the same. Whoever told you that RUN!!! They are setting you up for failure in the worst way possible.

As you sit it’s okay to be silent as you may not know what to feel. You don’t have to answer or talk if you choose not to. Please, know that some healings take longer than others and that’s okay. The main thing is that you started. Just for a moment image yourself in Gods position, don’t you think he grieves each day when we do something disobedient?  If you answered yes, then you know how much strength and time it can take to heal.  Once the healing from grief begin you will discover things about yourself that you haven’t noticed before. You’ll become lighter to the point you just conquered the world. Your clearer about your path and have a sense of who you are. There is only one thing…are you ready for the answer because, this may be a tough pill to swallow.  You must connect back to the creator to get that feeling of sensation. I mean after all he did say “I am the way, the truth and life” (John 14:6). The key word in that entire scripture “I am” so let’s affirm “I AM HEALED” but remember to believe it and feel it. Repeat that over and over until you become it.

Pick Your Healing Place

Let’s Begin

Now, you have taken the time to browse my website where do we go from here. Well, let’s begin as I am new to blogging and nervous a little. I never fully seen myself as a blogger until well many thoughts came to mind. I just thought I would have published a poetry book and stay low key but, I guess God has other plans. So let me tell you just a little more about myself as you may have read already, I lost my late father, mother, and husband within years of each other. It hurts I must admit but, it strengthens me as a person. Yes, I know the emotions that lots of people go through every day without a loved one. I also know what it takes to rebuild and just continue to push even on days when you just want to curl up in a ball and just die yourself. It gets lonely as you begin to ask yourself questions that you personally know you will not get the answers to. Or would you, I’ll leave that for another day to answer.

It has taken me sometime to process the matter that I loss three major people in my life. In addition, being a mother grieving from the loss but, helping another human being to understand what it takes to heal properly.  A mother who had to be somewhat strong but, teaching my son, it’s okay to cry as it helps to release some of the emotions that are felt. Here is the thing who am I speaking too, because we all experienced loss but also lost. It’s like an emotional roller coaster that continues to go up and down non-stop.  When you thought you have just got over one thing here comes another just beaten you down to the point your wondering, God what have I done please tell me. I understand because, that’s how I felt many days and nights crying not understanding the big “WHY”. This was the last straw as I wrote a poem called “Kept Me” for that very reason. A confession but, prayer in one trying to seek answers to the only one who can answer. 

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The waiting, tears, sleepless nights, anxiety and much more because, the change and realization that it was part of change. That word change can be a tough pill to swallow as it can be good, or bad. Yet, knowing it’s a part of the emotional roller coaster you experience in life. The part that no one is ready or prepared for. Therefore, it sits with you until one day you decide, I had enough of crying and going in circles. There must be another way to life then me sitting as a lightbulb goes off “ding” that’s my impression of a lightbulb going off. Okay, work with me, I’m trying here.  Anyway, how do you process those emotions, how do you begin to place one foot in front of another, just how do you do it. Well simple, just breath and allow yourself to have compassion for what you are feeling. Place one foot in front of the other and continue this routine until one day you look back and you’re not the same anymore.

The process begins to become easy as you… what’s a good word “Live” oh! Wow I felt refresh just saying that. Let me say that again “Live, Live, Live” I like the sound of that. What I’m trying to convey to you is that… you have breath in your body. Don’t give up on that breath that you have cherish it and breathe in the air and thank God each day. Can I let you in on a secret? If I let you in, please I beg of you please don’t tell anyone. Okay here goes, it’s okay to question GOD for your answer. Did you catch that? It’s okay to question him, he already knows what you need and want before you ask. I can testify to that. This is the very reason I can write, talk, and speak about it. I was angry with him very much but, I allowed myself to feel those emotions happy or sad. Trust me I written God a couple of letters telling him how I felt. Guess what in the end, it felt so (emphasis on so) good let me tell you. I was so mad I even took it out on the boxing bag something I know couldn’t hit back. I’m just giving you a healthy way to cope with anger.

“It’s like an emotional roller coaster that continues to go up and down non-stop.” 

Introduction

Welcome to the wonderful blog of “You and I,” a blog that will have many twists and turns if that’s your cup of tea. A warning: it may have some bumps and thrills, but that’s always the case in life. Take time to navigate my website and get comfortable, as this may not be your ordinary blog page. Yet, who wants to be ordinary anyway? You have just embarked on the page of an author who loves to keep things a little interesting, funny, serious, warm, and full of many other emotions. There may be times when you feel a little sad, but remember, I am here to inspire you to seek out your “you” in the “I.” Did you catch on? My poetry book is called “You and I Inspired Me” …lol. Well, never mind that, as the mind is what I like to talk about a lot.

Okay, let me get back to the welcoming as I got a little sidetracked. Let’s try this again…Welcome to my blog, where you will find interesting and not-so-interesting topics. Some will be related to my poetry book, and some blog posts will not. Explore my website and get comfortable because you are now part of the “You and I Inspired Me” family. Some things that I blog about will be long, and some will be short and to the point. Don’t we all love that… honesty. What was I supposed to say to you all? Oh! I remember now. Thank you for visiting my page, and I pray that it inspires you as it creates a transformation in your life. Again, welcome to “THE BLOG OF YOU AND I”—an experience like no other, at least that’s what I hope…lol. Please feel free to ask questions, but keep them PG, as we may have children reading these blogs as well.

Here is one of my quotes:

“In that day, you will see what the creator has given you—a masterpiece to create what only an artist can do. So, enjoy this day, for you, the artist, have just begun.”