The Past is gone where do you belong On the journey yet to be formed Stay in the moment For God knows what’s best Take your time Enjoy the time In the moment make a choice Run away or walk into your future Which every you pick don’t worry You have been given a choice Choose wisely for this is a journey that you may not know Release and learn from the past But if you bring it along it may affect your future Trust God to handle your Past, Present and Future
Using social media? I Guess
When it comes to social media, I use it as a tool to help connect, spread a message and gather information. I do have little personal but, it still ties with the business aspect of what I do. So, I think it’s safe to say a little bit of personal but, also business depending on the platform being used. My favorite which is odd is Twitter, I never thought I would get twitter fingers…lol.
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So, you were Rejected…
If you made it this far reading my blogs, congratulations to you and thank you for reading as I hope they been of help thus far. So, you may have noticed a simple and unfiltered title of this blog “So you were rejected…”. I know, I know I could have said it another way but, that would be too much like right. What is the meaning of rejection? How do you define the word rejection for yourself? We all have different meanings and emotions so; I can expect this “word” you can say to resonate differently with others. When looking at the word rejection it is defined as “the dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc. or even the spurring of a person’s affection” (bing.com). Did you just see the word they tried to use “spurring” laughing aloud. Why couldn’t they just leave the definition basic but, anyway. I am going to try and communicate this the best way possible for clarity who may take this the wrong way. I am personally happy that I have, is and being rejected. Now, some will have other emotions of sadness, tears, and negative thought patterns that will flow in the mind. I am here to tell you if “rejection” is the reason for your sadness celebrate those tears.
I defined the word rejection but another word that comes to mind is “fear”. Let me tell you when you see rejection fear is not too far behind. This is what fear is saying to you “wait for me, I need to be a part of you”. Yep, fear of rejection we can call it. Can I talk with you just for a moment? Can we become honest enough with ourselves to speak about this with no hard feelings in the end? If you were to take a poll, everyone should raise their hands when it comes down to rejection. The word itself does something to the psych that you may try to understand, why you were rejected. If we look at scripture how many times did Christ say Peter would reject him? How many times did others reject Him? Now how many times have you personally been rejected in your life? I will answer it for you…too many, was I right? We as a people can look at this word as a negative in the psych, but honestly rejection is positive.
Yes, rejections can be fearful and stir emotions up in the body that plays a huge effect on us. Yet, walking around unhealed because of the word “rejected”. Yet, saying to yourself “I’m okay”, no you’re not. I’ll soften the blow a little, it’s okay to be rejected, neglected and any other word you want to place behind it. Just think if you were never rejected in your life how will it be? Just think about that, would you be where you are today, or would you still be stuck in the same predicament as yesterday? I’ll give you some time to catch up on what you’re reading as it takes time to grasp the thought of being rejected. I am not just talking about romantic relationships but, jobs, friends, family, schools, etcetera. If you have read my previous blogs, have you noticed you are not in control. Fear creates a physiological sensation in the body that continues to keep people stuck and unable to move forward because of the word “rejection”. All right, I wasn’t supposed to tell the secret but, I minds well if, I’m going to talk about rejection.
Here is something about me that the world, not family, friends, and coworkers already know. I work in the field of psychology and all the years prior and until today. If I want to control your emotions, all it takes is one thing. Are you ready for the secret? Contact me and I’ll let you know personally what it is. Like I said it’s a secret but, hopefully you will catch on by the end of this post. Rejection is needed because without it how would you discover the best version of yourself? It hurts to be rejected but, look at it this way, if you weren’t rejected how would you be able to do what you do now? If you weren’t rejected, how could you be of help to someone else? If you weren’t rejected how was God going to get the glory in your life? If you weren’t rejected how would someone in need hear your testimony of how you served? If you weren’t rejected…oh Lord helps me at this moment, how would you know what it took to move you from out the situation you were in…to what God has called you to step in? Do you understand what I am saying so far? Sometimes rejection is needed along with its friend fear because it moves you into places that you wouldn’t have gone to.
I’m trying to hold my composer; God knows I am trying. It doesn’t feel good to be rejected, no it doesn’t but, we must remember all things work for the Glory of God. Take a moment in look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you see that same person from five, ten, or even longer years ago? God tells us in his word “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” (Genesis 50:20). I don’t know who this post is for but, God is with you strengthening, building, providing you with all you need to do his will. That rejection you are feeling allow it to build you until you get enough strength to use it for good. You are more than enough…if people want to walk out your life let it be. If you didn’t get the job, you wanted to let it be. If you didn’t get into that school let it be. God has something better for you on the other side. All he wants is better for His children. Whoever resonates with this you deserve better, so allow the rejection to take place in your life. Allow the rejection to shape and mold you.
I know, I had to encounter many days of rejection but, I am okay because, I have God by my side. There were times I was a “Joan” trying to do my own thing. When God was trying to keep me safe from harm and tell me don’t. Now I understand the purpose of rejection much more clearly than before. I looked at rejection as negative until I changed my mindset, stepped back, reflected, looked over my entire life. I can say I am happy for the “Nos” in my life. If I didn’t have the “Nos” I wouldn’t be able to experience this peace I have in my life now. My foundation is built on the rock, the one who I know is with me when others are against me. Okay you were rejected, it hurts and that’s okay BUT, If GOD is for you who can be against you? Take time to think about it because no one wants to be rejected but, God has Accepted you as you are.
“The dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc. or even the spurring of a person’s affection.”
“rejection.” microsoftbing.com.2023.https://www.bing.com/search?q=define+rejection&FORM=DCTSRC(14 April 2023).
The Flood of Gratitude
The walk is the journey that you begin when you are young, unnoticeable of what you were walking from. You turned around to see what was left behind. A spot you know personally in your heart that you could not have made it through. The thought of knowing something keeps you covered as you continue to walk forward. A voice came and told you…take my hand for He knows what’s best for you. You questioned for a second trying to figure out should you grab hold or let go. What did you choose to do in that very moment did you take hold or let go? This is the freedom of choice, the chance to awaken to a new day. When you awaken to this day did you give thanks for the breath which is in your body? Hmmm…laughing at the thought of breath, being able to see family and friends on another new day.
As you go through life observe the past experiences in your life…what are you thankful for? This is the flood of gratitude, the flood that continues to praise the creator for what he brought and bringing you through. The gratitude to be thankful for the breath which is in your body. Did you know someone did not get another day of breath in the body. I am not just speaking of that breath, which most equate with death. This breath is you living again, understanding that you are a new creature and the old has passed away. What is breath? Well, if we look at the word its oxygen that enters and exists the lungs. Okay, that sounds rather familiar right? Wrong must people do not stop to ask themselves where the breath comes from which flows in and out of the body. Do you think that the breath in your body is your doing, or would you think it comes from something higher? Can you breathe without oxygen? So why do so many people think they can breathe without God himself if he is the creator. The breath that is given to you comes from the Spirit that resides in you.
Breath that continues to produce so that you can see another day. Why aren’t you thankful for being alive and able to live life where most are unable. Gratitude is another coping skill that can be used when healing. Sometimes the smallest thing can be overlooked due to seeking the bigger. Don’t get it wrong, there is never anything wrong with looking at the bigger picture but, realize the little things that are being skipped over is just as important. For example, that goal you may try to get to no matter what it is takes small steps before everything becomes clearer. This is how healing works, it may appear complicated but, as time goes on you will notice the change. Your attitude/ behavior is the main thing that will stick out when healing. Having gratitude in your life releases the good chemicals in the body, to help produce positive emotions. When was the last time you displayed gratitude to someone or vice versa? Just a simple thank you can go a long way.
I want to say this simply Prayer Holy Spirit, I thank you for flowing through the body of Gods people. I ask that you continue to protect them from all harm. Most importantly be with them and not ahead of them as you guide, minister, teach, everything that God has for them. That they may know its God that gives them peace, joy, love, comfort, and any other thing they may need from above. I ask that you continue to breathe life into them but mostly importantly thank you God for sending a comforter. Amen
Sleepless Night
Close your eyes they say and dream a wonderful dream A dream that can take you away to face all your fantasies, fears, and anxieties. Yet there is no dream as it became dark as a storm that entered your life. Close your eyes they say and awaken to humble beginnings Well tell them where it should begin this dream of dreams Dreams that cause sleepless nights to look upon yourself and identify what’s inside of you Dream of seeing your future in front of you and there you will see your present self Those sleepless nights as you toss and turn waiting for a beautiful dream to come into your mind Sleepless you become as you continue to toss to just realize it was the thought of never to dream. Dream a dream that only you can see but, wondering if it’s a dream or reality. A thought of sleepless nights bothering your very existence as it spills into your reality Dream they say, what is a dream if there is no dream to dream Another sleepless night in darkness just waiting for morning so you can see the light Now open your eyes was it a dream or was it true self that was faced in the darkness Wonder until you come to a sleepless night and see what your mind will create After all you have twelve hours of darkness so use it wisely to have another sleepless night. This is a Poem from my Poetry Book "You and I Inspired Me". Thank you in advance. Special thanks to My Publisher Dorrance
Peace in Patience
This is for those who ever said to themselves “What about me?”. God is simply saying I haven’t forgot about you so continue to wait. How many of you cried thinking everything that you do appears as a dark storm came and just poured on you? Poured to the point you’re drenched, uncomfortable and trying to figure out what to do next. How many of you ever had moments when you watched all those surrounding you receive a blessing that you were praying for countless nights? What did it feel like to watch others receive the blessing that you lost sleep for? How many doubted I will never see the vision because of that storm. I can say, I understand the pain, that you must feel as you cry wondering when it will be my turn God. Thinking he didn’t see the cries; it became silent and lonely inside. As you may begin to question did, I do anything wrong that I haven’t received the blessing. I am here to tell you; you did nothing wrong.
There was nothing that you did when you came into this world as you had no control over family, experiences, friends, or anything you may have had. The truth of the matter there was nothing you could have changed to receive the blessing. I want you to understand there is peace in patience which requires waiting. Exactly, what you’re waiting for is another question, only you and God know the answer for that. At the same time what you’re asking for…is it what God has in store for you? One thing about the creator is we can envision, imagine, and plan our life all we want. Ultimately in the end God will get what He wants. It may seem hard to understand now because your steady asking God “What about me?”. I want you to remember this according to Ecclesiastes 3:1 “to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven”. In that enjoy the peace in patience because it will come.
There are times it may seem hard as you may doubt, become fearful, anxious, and any other thing you may face. Just know God has not forgotten about you as He will always give you peace in the wait. Not a peace as the world will give you but, His good and acceptable peace. The waiting period is for him to do a new in you. When others are being blessed celebrate their victories because God knows your heart and knows what you are feeling. Celebrate their victory for God is great, and wonderful and ready to aim you higher than before. It’s in the waiting that you are tested in your faith. Trust me, I know because you will have thoughts of him forgetting about you but, he already told you in his written word he will never leave you nor forsake you. Your creator is great and awesome as he has plans for you. Just remember there is peace in patience.
When you feel alone at night just know he hears your cries as God himself is just orchestrating what He has for you and only you. So yes, take a backseat and watch what the creator is about to do for you. Yet, in the waiting do not faint in well doing. As you continue to press forward remind yourself of his written word. Remember what I said in a previous blog Jeremiah 29:11 he knows the plans he has for you. We must recognize when you are great in the sight of God, He is just preparing to take you to the next level. To get to the next level, you must be pruned, to be cleansed. Have you ever drunk prune juice, or coffee I would even say for some. What effects does prune juice, or coffee have on your body? Well, think of it just like that the junk must come out until you are purified as he sees fit. Yes, it takes time but, enjoy and trust the process as this is a process that is much needed.
I can personally say there is truly peace in patience as you draw close to him in a relationship. Here is the thing the more you draw near to God the more he will reveal you. Are you ready for what he has for you? This is the time of honesty within yourself to be the best version of you. For example, you ask well what about me right? If God gave you what you truly asked for can you be honest enough with yourself and say you are ready? Think about it for a second, sometimes what we are asking for we are not even prepared for. Enjoy the waiting period because in that time he will give you peace if you just ask. What did he say, “you have not because you ask not”. I can relate as it is hard to see others be blessed or live out what you thought you deserve. It’s hard as you lose things while others around you are gaining. It’s hard knowing that you are going through a period of longsuffering. Yes, it’s hard. But did you not remember when you chose to walk after Christ you were going to endure…did you not remember that. Did you not remember when you had an intimate conversation with God in secret you told him “Yes” I will do your will. If you forgot God didn’t, he remembered.
He remembers what you even told him as a little child, “God if you will bless me than I would….”. He remembered the broken pieces along the way. He is just trying to create a new thing in you. So yes, what about you? But even more God is asking you do you have faith in Him? So, sit with your creator allow him to minister and pour into you as there is Peace in Patience. Not just peace of your surroundings but peace of mind where the true peace begins. How many of you want God’s peace?
The Art of Letting Go
There are times in life when it’s time to let go of the things that no longer serve a purpose in your life. If this were to occur, would you be ready to let go, or would you continue to hold on? Take a few moments to answer the question because there could be something that has been lingering for some time but, you’re not ready to release. That’s the thing about the art of letting go. This is another type of grief in an individual’s life who tries to identify what hasn’t been released. Here is the thing, letting go has positive and negative effects on human emotions. Yet, what are you letting go is the biggest question you must ask yourself. Is it the fact you’ve loss a loved one, you must move on from the relationship, relocation, the list goes on. The only person who knows when it’s time to let go is you the individual person. Take time to create a list of pros and cons to identify how your situation has impacted you. Sometimes you can be amazed by what you’re letting go. Let’s look at some examples of letting go through different situations in life.
The first is the loss of a loved one. What does it take to release the emotional hurt inside your very own body? What does it feel like as you imagine this individual speaking, listening, or touching? There are all types of emotions going through the mind at this very moment. The emotions of anxiety, guilt, fear, denial, peace, acceptance and sometimes release depend on the relationship. When someone departs from this life it’s easy to provide condolences as most people, if I am being honest don’t know what to say. What if I told you sometimes it’s best to not say anything. At first it may seem odd, but each human being grieves and mourns differently. Some individuals cry, some don’t…that doesn’t mean they loved the person less. This is the way they process their emotions or have a better understanding of death.
The second situation is relationships, which are an absolute must in society. How would you know how to engage if you don’t have relationships to learn from. This is the type where you may see the individual or you may not. Either way, this is a grief because, it can be the fear of starting over. An example of this would be divorce, this can have an emotional impact as it took time to develop and come to agreement for some. This is nothing to be ashamed about as it happens in life that two people who were once in love can grow apart. Yes, marriage takes time, and you must work things out but, sometimes it’s not that easy. Why do so many judge what’s healthy for another individual’s emotional health? When getting a divorce according to the many people I spoke with, you lose a part of self. Just as losing a loved one, it’s the same thing because, both must rebuild and start over again. This is the part that becomes hard for most people, knowing that life must begin again.
The next one is letting “yourself” go and not understanding the underlying of grief here. When you allow yourself to fall and you know longer know who you are…that is grief. It takes a lot of encouragement to bring yourself back to the place you once were. In this type of grief, you didn’t just let go but, you lost who you were mentally, physically possibly, spiritually, and emotionally. There are many challenges you must conquer to bring who you are to the surface. At the same time, it helps you to rediscover “you” before a new relationship. I hope this makes sense to someone. A question that should be answered is what makes you happy, sad, angry, frustrated, joyful? Explore each of these emotional words until you realize who you are again. It’s hard losing self in the mist of everything going on in life but it allows you the confidence and the time needed to heal.
The last one is materialistic items that are hard to let go of but, eventually can be replaced. How is this grief you ask? The emotional impact to rebuild what was lost. If you look at the previous three, they all have to do with rebuilding in some way. The only difference is this grief is dealing with items verses a person. Yet, this is a grief that at some point all have endured in life. Who wants to go through grief? Nobody if the question was asked.
Okay so how is this all a part of letting go but is still considered grief. Everyone has experienced at least once in their lives one of the situations above. Grief is not just tragedy but, it’s the process of releasing what no longer services its purpose in your life. I know it’s hard to digest but, it truly is. It’s the “let go” that most humans have problems facing; no matter if it’s a loved one, divorce/friendship, self, or materialistic. We all will experience this art of letting go one way or another. When we let go it allows us to draw closer to the creator and begin a relationship with him. Yes, it will hurt, and we will experience different emotions but, this is not anything new to God himself. He also experienced losses such as His Son, dignity, ridicule, and rejection. Does this all sound familiar to you? If so, welcome to the wonderful world of your creator. In a previous blog I explained it’s okay to question God because He already knows. He even knows that it will hurt, He knows that we’re not use to letting go.
He knows and that’s why he tells us “Come to me all that labor and heavy laden and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Rest is simply to stop. What are you stopping? You’re allowing yourself time to process what He has created. You’re letting go knowing that unfortunately, you’re not in control of your life as much as you may think. God gave us this body; this is true, but some situations are meant for us to go to Him for the answers. Grief is one of them, no one can provide the answer to what you’re looking for in that moment. If you truly think about how many people said, “I can only imagine what you’re going through”. I will raise my hand on that one because I know I have said it or been told. When we look around who understands better than the creator himself. Letting go of anything in life is not easy and takes time to adjust without it but, as time passes you will realize the answers to your questions asked.
How much are you paying attention to your answer on “why” something had occurred in your life. Remember All things work for your good…keyword “All”. Even the loss of a loved one which is the hardest thing to swallow. Someone who reads this blog will have comments. I caution you because I wouldn’t say anything if I hadn’t experienced it myself. I am a living testimony and I had to swallow that same pill as you. It’s not easy but, with time it becomes easy, only if you connect back to God for your answers. I explained in the beginning its bumps and thrills because that’s life to be honest with you. I hate to break the news to you, but this is the art of letting go. This is why sitting with your emotions, processing what you feel is vital. It gives a deeper meaning to life. A life that we will never understand until we connect back with God.
Therefore, ask yourself when you rebuild your life what do you want to rebuild on, rocky ground or the foundation of God who knows all before you were born. As he said, “I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”. (Jeremiah 29:11)
He’s Risen!!
This here is the continuation from: The Unapologetic Forgiveness blog. I would like to say thank you to those who has read the blog as this is now the poem which was created. Thank you all again.
The Unapologetic Forgiveness
Why cry when you’re already forgiven, from all transgressions and iniquities. Why cry when someone has already cried and prayed for you? Why cry when Christ plead forgiveness for you? This is who we as a people serve a God that is awesome but shows mercy toward his children. Yes, children that still need the help of their Father’s guidance. We are taught about forgiveness which helps to keep us strong but allow us to forgive ourselves. The model that Christ himself displayed on the cross was an excellent example. How can a person so hurt, abused, tormented still find in His heart to ask God to forgive his people? This was so because God himself Loves each of us and explained to us how he will never leave nor forsake his children. All we must do is call His name and He will answer the call.
If you want true forgiveness you must learn to forgive yourself before you’re able to forgive another. A forgiveness that Christ displayed despite what he was put through. Do you understand that you have the right to heal just by learning to forgive? It will hurt because of the anguish and pain someone caused upon you in life. It will hurt because you’re unable to forget how they treated you, even when they don’t understand the pain that caused you. There is one that understands it all and its God that he sent his only begotten son. Do you know what it took for God to transform into the flesh so that we can be forgiven. My heart cries as I write, due to the lack of understanding of the creator. We are fighting over names, money, materialistic but who is fighting to allow God to be known. A God who forgives everyone on this planet so that we can be free just as His spirit.
We can’t place a God who is the creator in a box, he gave us the mind to think outside the box. Forgive those who have hurt, lied, and stolen from you because everyone has sinned. Forgive those who misuse you because he that cast the first stone let them throw it. Thank you, for your goodness to me. I ask that you minister to your people and reveal who you are to them. Enlighten them at this time as they serve a Living God. Allow them to see the Love and Forgiveness of your heart God. Teach them, who wants to be taught the truth in you. “Forgive them father for they do not know what they do” was the last words spoken by Christ. Amen…so what are your last words when you need or want someone to forgive you? What Christ did was not in vain but, so we can have healing, and comfort but, most importantly peace that passes all understanding.
It’s in peace you learn how to forgive, love, and have joy despite what’s happening in your life. How many want that peace? Let me tell you, experiencing that peace is awesome and beautiful. Your conscious mind has no regrets because you truly were able to forgive you first. There is one issue that can cause pain to linger in the body. Most people expect an apology not realizing that they may never get an apology. This is what keeps people stuck and unable to move forward. Why are you allowing others to have control over your life when you have a God that forgave you and them. If you look at the ending life of Christ, haven’t you notice He personally asked His father to forgive you. Instead of crying, trying to get approval from those who may never provide the apology you want, ask God for repentance. At least going to God, it allows you to build a relationship that he wants with you. Stop crying for an apology when Christ still haven’t received His.
Vibrate It’s Time
The thought to see change in another human being’s life is amazing. Yet, the thought of noticing the metamorphosis in your life is even bigger. A change for the better and not the worse, way possible. Remember I communicated, the blog will have ups and downs along the way. Well, this is the upside of healing properly. When you are healed it allows you to hear from God clearer than before. God continued to place on my heart and allow me to see the symbolic meaning of a butterfly. Since the word metamorphosis continued to come to mind, let’s talk about how a butterfly can help in healing. First let’s recognize how there are many types of butterflies, along with color, size and even features. It appears the same as us humans how we are all unique in our own way. None of us react, think, or emotionally feel the same as another individual person. Which is why the butterfly is so special and unique. Side note I love butterflies as well as they bring joy.
When looking at the representation of a butterfly it goes through stages much like we do. There are many changes butterflies experience as well as length of time to transition into the next phase. As I am typing this, I am so excited to share this with you all because, how good God is. I ask that you bear with me as I try to convey what was given to share with you all. This word metamorphosis continued to come into my mind over and over until I written a poem about it. The word continued to appear so now I must write this here. In life there are changes that needs to occur but only in places, or situations we may not want to go. If we take the life of a butterfly and observe the behaviors of this beautiful creature, what do you notice? There is a time that most people do not recognize the caterpillar as it is overlooked and passed by. The butterfly does not begin to have true recognition until it transforms into a beautiful flying insect that we see.
This is the question, have there been times that you were overlooked because, what others did not notice inside of you? Where were you in that point of your life? How did it make you feel about yourself? Well, you are in the right place for the answer. God created you before you were formed in your mother’s womb, so he knew the plans of your life before you were even a thought. Just as much as the caterpillar must go into a dark space…we too must do the same. In order for God to mold and shape us as he sees fit, we must isolate from others. It’s in that dark place God begins to minister, feed, and pour into what plans he has over each of our lives. If you pay close attention to the phases of a butterfly, we as people can relate. It can take years for healing, to get to a place that we are at peace and love who we become.
BECOMING is an interesting word because we must ask ourselves who are we “becoming” during the time of isolation from others. It can become lonely, scared, and fearful but, this is the time to focus on the things you need to sustain who you must become. It’s in those dark places that God begins to create most of his work in you. Again, this is the molding period remember God is the “Potter” and you are the “Clay”. Okay, but how does a butterfly relate to us still? Good question, a butterfly must stay within the cocoon for a certain amount of time before it can be released. If the butterfly is too early it is underdeveloped, just as you and I. When a butterfly becomes uncomfortable and no longer can fit in the cocoon what happens? It begins to break out and spread its wings…right? correct, so look at yourself. When you have the confidence, strength, and boldness of who you are and what God has called you to be you break out.
The breakout period is you stepping into who you are and what was being done in that time of isolation. I know there are times where you wish, you hadn’t gone through or experience that life situation but, it was part of the plan. If you only had good days and no bad, how would you blossom. Unfortunately, you wouldn’t have because, you haven’t given yourself that time to be molded and shaped. What I am saying is this, the butterfly eventually outgrew its cocoon as it metamorphosis into the most beautiful insect. When a butterfly flies its light, vibrant, unique, free in its own way, that it’s not compared to other insects.
The butterfly is free, as the vibrant color allows us to see the transformation, that aww people until this day. Look at yourself as a butterfly undeveloped, ready to be used in being developed until the light creates its vibrant colors. During the metamorphosis the butterfly is patiently waiting. Have you ever had a butterfly land on you? If you have, ask yourself how did you feel emotionally inside? It takes lots of patients in order to achieve proper healing. When the healing is done there is a light people notice inside of you. That light is God allowing you to shine before the world so they can see your transformation. One last question… Are you ready for the light to shine so people can see the great works the creator has done in you?
You and I Inspired Me 